How I Did the Work.

  • Reparenting my Authentic Self
    There is a lengthy process by which an adult survivor becomes able to give themselves what they did not receive in childhood. It has many names in therapeutic settings, but the word reparenting struck a deep chord with me. I assume many who have used these tools felt they were… Read more: Reparenting my Authentic Self
  • Trauma Bang Bang Part Four
    As one can imagine from reading the previous sections of the Trauma Bang Bang series, there was more abuse that continued throughout my early adult years. I attracted very damaged men and gave them everything I could offer with no attention to my own emotional needs. I made unsafe and… Read more: Trauma Bang Bang Part Four
  • Trauma Bang Bang Part Three
    Individual and generational unresolved wounds are the breeding grounds for personality disorders.There are a wide spectrum of narcissistic traits that develop from insecurities. Increased symptoms allow for more specific typification such as malignant or covert narcissism. The development of a child’s brain is significantly hindered when they are exclusively raised… Read more: Trauma Bang Bang Part Three
  • Trauma Bang Bang Part Two
    Skip this section if you don’t want to know the details. Warning: This content contains descriptions of severe child abuse. I was sexually abused by my paternal grandfather starting at age 2 years old. He took every chance to fondle and kiss me and my cousins. He told the smooth… Read more: Trauma Bang Bang Part Two
  • Boundaries, Part Two
    I recently talked to my therapist about an issue I’ve been working on for the past few months. I’m doing a lot of one-sided reconciliation in this situation because the other people involved aren’t able to do the work with me in order to repair our friendship. The boundary issues… Read more: Boundaries, Part Two